I have frequently been told to not use my cellphone an hour before going to bed and while in bed. The screen lighting keeps you awake.
I don’t listen. Up to 2 hours before bed and for an hour once I go to bed, I play solitaire, read the news, Facebook, etc. This seems to tire my eyes, make me bored, and helps me sleep. Of course, the THC/CBD gummies I take also help. I don’t drink caffeine, quit alcohol a couple years ago when my pill count increased a lot, quit smoking cigarettes in 2017 for medical reasons, go to bed at 9:00 PM every night, wake at 7:00 AM alarm IF I’m even sleeping, exercise, take doctor recommended supplements, and reduce my fluid intake at 8:00 PM in hopes of fewer trips to the bathroom during the night.
As with every PD, my routine may not be identical for someone else but maybe you can get an idea to try.

I highly recommend the advice to get a bed protection pad and either bladder control pads or panties depending on your level of need. One of my friends recommended a device that I have seen advertised that empties your bladder automatically to keep you dry while you sleep but I have not gotten to that point yet so have not tried it myself.

Also, have you seen a urologist? There are recommendations they can give you, including tips to minimize your incontinence, certain medications , and a new non-surgical option that sounds interesting. And I am sure that there are different options for men than there are for women.

of course there are a lot of those pesky AI generated pieces of advice which means that a person has to go to the sites that are advisory on the topic to see what they are actually saying.
https://www.sleepfoundation.org/stages-of-sleep....
Avoid stimulants
Caffeine, cigarettes, and alcohol can interfere with sleep, especially REM sleep.
Establish a sleep schedule
Going to bed and waking up at the same time each day can help your body prepare for sleep.
Relax before bed
You can try a relaxing sleep routine.
Exercise regularly
Regular exercise can help you sleep deeper and increase your bladder volume arousal threshold.
Take supplements
Some research suggests that a combination of theanine and GABA, which can be found in tea leaves and the brain, can improve REM sleep and sleep duration
https://www.attends.com/blog/post/managing-nigh...

Managing Nighttime Incontinence: 7 Ways to Get a Good Nights Sleep

https://www.attends.com/blog/post/managing-nighttime-incontinence-7-ways-to-get-a-good-nights-sleep-

5 Ways to Get More REM Sleep

https://www.sleepfoundation.org/stages-of-sleep/how-to-get-more-rem-sleep

JabZim; your post has helped. Thank you

Had three Urologists. Tried everything known to man