When I was laid up in agony for two years following a fall in which one of my vertebra moved and my spinal chord was then pinched my hubby had to do everything and he had to learn to cook as well.

I almost forgot, I help out a friend who has MS in the nursing home. Her name is Lanell and during the pandemic I put up a bird feeder outside her window and kept it full for her. She also has 4 others who help her and visited her and have over the years gone to the Dr.'s with her, played bingo with her and for her and just loved her. What makes us do it? Love, respect, integrity, God to be God like, It tells us to be in the Bible, prayer. Maybe we need a Living facility just for Parkies who love each other. I appreciative your questions but you see I didn't even include me in my answer to you so there is some of us that just help , and people shy away from me too. after I offer. Some have told me No when I've asked them to help me. but have done other things for me that they could do. Then I have had to stop and shy away when I was helping a friend that is a hoarder and her dream wasn't my dream so I dismounted the dead horse. You cannot make a horse drink you can lead it but not make it drink. Her family won't help her either they did once and I think they are all burnt out. They painted her house cleaned up her yard hauled garbage away and trimmed trees. I organized her garage sale stuff cleaned out her garage, just enough to get her car in.helped her get a automatic Garage door opener and new door. I got tired when she hurt to bad to help. It wasn't her fault but neither was it mine. I bet this is a normal story not the headliners we think at times. I'm not a bad person either Oh yes I am a Democrat also she was not. I would never argue with her or her family but there is that too. I still text her and let her know where the food box drop will be and when. sometimes but ...
I hope you don't judge me to much . Hugs Rosie🙃 Its just damn hard.
One person cannot do everything, I think I was an example but not anymore. I've fallen from grace in that respect. Hell I am sick person also and her needs came first. Now why do I feel like that and my brother does not. Its a question. Boy I have really opened myself up her be kind. K?

Here I go. The reasons people volunteer, Altruism, to be more Christ like, Notoriety, Love, to make an amends, My brother says he does it because he worked for the government for40 some years and he does it as a pay back to society. multiplication. Does this help?🙃

I have found this question very interesting. I have decided to talk to my brother who helps everyone he is an electrician gives everyone a cut rate and works odd hours any tine any place. He is a saint. I swill also ask my friend who has never driven in her entire life doesn't own a car and never goes without. They know what works. I know Laura will say I don't whine enough! ha ha ha🤭

Some of my sisters have been very helpful to my husband with PD and me. One sister in particular has been especially helpful. She helped us with the move from Texas to California and has done so many other things along the way. I hate to ask her for more help! My whole idea in moving to assisted living was to NOT have to depend on family. But now and then, the paid caregivers fail us or there’s something outside the bounds of what the facility will do. And then I end up calling my sister again. I just hope some day I can do something (or rather a whole trainload of somethings) for her in return. 💜💕❤️